While other toddlers have no qualms in playing with others, there are some who prefer to cling to their parents. This toddler behavior is normal. Separation anxiety is common among children. Your toddler may prefer to be close to you rather than socialize with other kids in a birthday party. Toddler development is a slow process especially when it comes to independence. Toddler parents don’t have to worry about it, but they must also help their children become confident in being on their own. There are ways that you can encourage your toddler to become independent.
- Let your toddler develop in his own pace. Being independent can be scary for children especially when they realize that you are not going to be there by their side every step of the way. Clinging to you makes them feel secure.
- Encourage him to go out and play with other kids. Let him know that you will still be there if he needs you. Children become more confident and emotionally secure when they know they have your support.
- Give him space. You don’t need to constantly rush to his side every time you think he needs you. Let him explore his surroundings or talk with other kids. The only way that children will learn to be independent is if they are left on their own. You can still watch over your toddler, but don’t hover around him.
- Don’t look worried or stressed when you leave him. The anxiety will just transfer to the child. Say good bye instead of trying to sneak out. Talk about the things you will do when you get back. Make sure he’s familiarized with the person you are going to leave him with, and the place that he’s going to stay for a while if you are leaving him to somebody else’s care.
This stage is a common phase for any toddler. Parents must learn to let go and trust their children to stand on their own two feet. The problem nowadays is that parents are too overprotective that their fears get transferred to their children. Experience is still the best teacher to help children become confident, adaptive, and independent individuals.
