A lot of my readers have been emailing me, asking me how I balance everything in my life. I’m a wife, mother, blogger, full time career woman, my family’s shock absorber, and a friend. Paano pa daw ako nakakapag-blog and maintain a full time work eh may Alvin and Anika pa ako?
Nagpause ako.
Actually, people have been asking me that since last year. Hindi ko masagot agad because even ako, I’m not sure how I do it. So what I did was to observe myself and collate the things that I do everyday and put them into words. Here they are, in my usual sabog and unorganized manner of explaining =)
Try to organize your time in a day
.During weekdays, I wake up early to go to work. I have a daughter who has a sixth sense and could tell na gising na Nanay niya kahit nakapikit pa siya. She wakes up the same time as I do (every freaking day, amazing!) and we play while I dress up and do make up for work. Before riding the car, she joins me in my outfit of the day pictorial and then she sees me off to work. And yes, I leave as in mega early because I hate driving in traffic. I don’t have the patience. So naturally, ang aga ko sa office di ba? That’s my blogging time na. I have like 45 minutes to blog. Then I work, work, work. During the day, I call Girlie to check up on Anika. Sa lunch break, I blog again. If I don’t need to do overtime work, I head home agad to play with Anika before she sleeps. Pagtulog na si bagets, I go down to spend time naman with the hubby.
I have the most understanding and supportive husband in the whole wide world.
You know, I won’t be able to do everything without my husband’s support. He supports me in my career and blogging hobby. Alvin’s very patient in taking photos of me and Anika for my blog entries. He sometimes reminds me pa nga, “O nakwento mo na ba sa blog mo yung blah blah blah?”. He knows that I love blogging so instead of being grouchy if I blog at night, sinasamahan niya na lang ako sa sala while I blog. When it comes to career, I am terribly grateful that I have a husband who isn’t insecure of what his wife has achieved. Super supportive din yan sa work ko. He makes me tell him about my day especially if there’s something bothering me at work. He spends time with Anika during the nights that I can’t move any muscle anymore from work fatigue and stress. Lagi ko nga iniisip na super sulit talaga ang mga na-kiss kong mga frogs before because they all still led me to Alvin! *tamis!*
Maximize weekends.
Weekends are my only time with Anika. However, these two days are also my only time for my pampering and errands too. How do I do it? Ganito. When Anika wakes up, we eat breakfast together and play. When it’s time for her morning nap, I sneak out to do my salon thing. Hot oil or hair spa. Manicure and Pedicure. Facials. Every weekend iba-iba pinapagawa ko =) When I get back, gising na siya. We play again or we go to the mall. We sometimes take her na during grocery shopping so we could spend time. I also bring her with me when I meet up my friends because weekends’s always Anika time. Consistent yan. And as much as possible, I don’t blog during the weekends. If and only if, tulog na ang bagets and si hubby, that’s the only time that I blog! — like now! =)
Have notes.
I have this uber kyoot notebook that I got from Tickles. I jot down agad if Alvin or Girlie said something funny. When I have new ideas for my blog, sulat agad! In that way, I don’t forget the things that I wanted to write about.
Bring your camera always.You will never know when you’re going to need it especially for blogging! =)
Admit that sometimes there are things that need to be sacrificed.For my case, it’s my shopping time and gimik time with friends that’s sacrificed. I seldom go to the mall now to buy things for myself or just simply wander about. Rather than going to the mall after work, I go home na lang so that I can get to play with Anika pa muna. Ako sad ako dito pero ang Alvin naman tuwang tuwa. He can’t understand kasi my need to be in the mall. I dunno ha but it lessens my stress when I’m in the malls. Lalo na pagmay nabibili. Panandaliang saya, kunbaga. Lol. Anyways, if I can’t go to the malls anymore, lalo naman gimik nights with friends. Yung puyatan ng bongga. I can’t do that often anymore because (1) I wake up 2x in the middle of the night to make Anika’s milk when she asks for it and (2) hindi na ako mapapakinabangan the next day because of puyat. So sadly, almost no more gimik nights for me. This I have learned to accept. So If I wanna meet up with my friends, sa umaga lang, as much as possible para mabitbit ang Anika =)
Spend quality time with the husband.
Admittedly, Alvin gets the lesser priority of my time compared to Anika and my work. Buti na lang talaga nga understanding and mabait asawa ko. With this I am super conscious to spend quality time with him at least once a week. I learned that from Dainty Mom. We have dinner or just simply have a drink somewhere. Basta we’re together and nagkukwentuhan. If there’s really no time, I leave the car in the office and insist on being picked up by him. At least, we go home and go to work together the next day. And eto talaga ang pinaka-advice ko diyan: ALWAYS GO TO BED TOGETHER AT THE SAME TIME. If one of us is sleepy already, aakyat na din ang isa kahit hindi pa antok. This is important to us. It’s nice kasi that after a hard day’s work, we make kwentuhan about anything. Nakaka-feel close talaga. Mas maganda din siyempre if may making love after pero alam niyo na yan. Hahaha! Di ko na kailangan ituro pa yan! =))
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I have to admit that it’s not easy. Minsan, nakakasira ng bait. There is no day that I am not thinking of anything. Anika’s health, ano ba kakainin sa bahay, my deadlines at work, mga gusto ko i-blog, what I have to do, etc etc. Being a mom and wife is difficult already. Being a mom, wife and having a full time job is more difficult. Being a mom, wife, having a full time job and a mega hobby like blogging makes it really difficult to balance the time. Pero ginusto ko ito eh and that is important. I believe that if you like what you do, you will find ways to make everything work.
The bottom line here is that you have to know how to prioritize.
Yun lang po, di ba?!
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