Mommy Wars and Competition – Your MOM

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Mommy Wars and Competition - Your MOM

Becoming a mother is one of the most precious experience a woman could have. Seeing your child for the first time give you tremendous amount of happiness and peace. Suddenly, the world for you is a lot smaller, fragile and serene. Until you hear a few unwanted remarks and unsolicited advice.

We all want the best for our children. We all do the best for our children. We just do it in different ways because we parents are different individuals with different beliefs, different priorities and in different state in lives. However, some just can’t help but utter a few words which they don’t feel offensive or hurtful and some just can’t help but feel offended and hurt. Hence, MOMMY WARS.

There are certain types of Mommy Wars or Mommy Competition. It is classified by the relationship of the other “mother” you feel a bit competitive with.

YOUR MOM

You and your mother are born in different years. My mom was born during the Second World War. I was born a year before the EDSA Revolution. My mom became a mother before the internet was born. I gave birth after 3 social network accounts.

During her time, information wasn’t available too much and they have to rely on their mother’s advice in handling their children. She had built an image in her mind that when I, too, have my own family, I will also look up to her the way she did with her mother. There is nothing wrong with that and I totally understand that. I actually see that the fault is in me because I never regarded her that way.

What I saw was that she wanted me to apply her parenting methods with my child. I never saw the big picture. I never read between the lines.

When she told me not to bring the child out because he hasn’t been baptized yet, she really wanted the child to stay indoors first and away from the dusty city until the first few weeks.

Your mom is probably not competing with you. She may directly impose a few things but that surely can be solved without a hostile response. She has always been one of your greatest ally and she surely have a few tricks that will never be outdated in any generation. Just listen and accept it as a suggestion. Respond nicely and if you don’t agree, deflect. Let your child do the magic.

Source: Green Minded Mom Blogs

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